Benjamin LaCaraApr 13, 20204 min readKeeping Ourselves In Good CompanyDo you know how to juggle? It’s good for more than just juggling. Go find three objects of similar shapes and sizes. Start with one...
Benjamin LaCaraMar 17, 20204 min readReactions in Relationships - Silver Linings in COVID-19Last week, on our way to therapy, Emily attempted to make a request of me. A friend of hers has been lonely as of late and she was asking...
Benjamin LaCaraFeb 3, 20206 min readReal TalkRelationships are hard. They are hard because individual people are complex. Then we put two or more people together and the complexity,...
Benjamin LaCaraJan 13, 20204 min readThrowing Large Parties and The DipWhen my house moved into where we currently live we took one look at the main floor and new we had to hold events here. Our sizable...
Benjamin LaCaraDec 23, 20197 min readCommunity Hygiene: Proactively Addressing ConflictI have the great privilege to live with many people whom I care about who also care about me. We live in San Francisco and have named our...
Benjamin LaCaraDec 16, 20195 min readThe Architects of ResentmentLast year I moved to where I am currently living in SF. While anticipating the move I devised a plan to pack gradually over a week or two...
Benjamin LaCaraNov 25, 20194 min readSlippery words - Soon: Looking at Requests vs DemandsLanguage can be a slippery thing. I'm not a linguist and it's clear that words can mean different things to different people at different...
Benjamin LaCaraOct 14, 20197 min readHard Conversations, Therapy and LaughterToday marks Emily and I's third year of dating. This has easily been my best romantic relationship. There are many reasons why....