Want to live an empowered
& decisive life?
No more endless grinding.
No more just getting through it.
You've done enough of that.
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I see myself as easy going.
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I can get stuck on making “the right” decision.
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Part of me is ashamed to have wants or needs.
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I put a lot of effort into making my relationships work and I still feel like I could do more.
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I have a history of relationships with people who needed emotional, physical, logistical or financial help.
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I tend to solve problems myself.
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I'm told my presence is grounding.
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I’d sooner just deal with things being bad to get it over with than make a fuss.
When things don’t feel good with others, I often wonder if I’m the problem.
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I have a history of sticking it out in situations (jobs, relationships, etc) that weren’t good for me.
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I struggle with procrastination.
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It’s rare for me to feel 10/10 excited about anything.
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I hate feeling rushed or pushed into things.
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When someone is upset I usually put my feelings aside and take care of the other person.
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When someone wants something from me I have a hard time saying “no” even when I don’t want to do it.
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Failing feels terrible. I have a hard time with making mistakes, especially publicly.
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Standing up for myself can be hard to do, but when I do, I stand firm.
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I’m not a wimp, I can really take the pain and keep going.
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Being criticized really impacts me.
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I don’t like owing others anything.
If you agree with at least half of these statements then I'm a great person for you to work with.
Does that sound like you?
I bet you’re a deeply caring and loyal person with a really big heart.
I bet you’re patient and that you have immense stamina and tremendous willpower.
I bet others can, and do, depend on you. You're reliable, steadfast and skilled.
I also bet that despite that big heart, you’re guarded. You don’t let people get close to you and you’d rather go it alone even though you long for companionship.
I bet you’re really hard on yourself. You have high expectations of yourself and your failings weigh heavily on you.
If it sounds like I know you it’s because
I’ve contended with every item on that list above.
I have been there. And now I’m free.
How we'll work together
You have certain patterns and beliefs that are holding your life in place.
They create the pains, unfulfilling relationships and inability to feel deeply that you’re accustomed to.
The high-level patterns are why the above list hits as hard as it does.
I’ll work as a guide through those patterns while weaving in your unique perspective and lived experiences.
Each part of this path needs its own set of skills. You can learn them. I can teach you.
We will do this work on weekly video calls supported by exercises, readings, podcasts and videos tailored to exactly where you are.
"Over the last few months as Ben's been coaching me I've experienced rapid forward movement along my own path of personal growth."
Seth H - CEO
Some of the topics we'll cover
while making space for your unique needs
Knowing what you want
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Align your body, heart and mind so you know what will enliven you.
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Be clear with your "no", know where to draw the line and how to enact it compassionately.
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Know where you're going and how to tell the moment you step off of the path.
Knowing how to get it
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Learn how to discern the most effective action for your goals.
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Embody the discipline to transform your life.
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Incorporate the strategies and tactics needed to show up differently for yourself and loved ones.
Connecting with others
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Be valued for who you are not what you do or the title next to your name.
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Have comfort with the emotions of others and confidence in how to be with them.
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Learn the skills to cultivate and maintain friendships.
Mind-blowing intimacy
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Have a romantic connection like never before.
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Build a foundation of safety with your partner from which you will play and explore.
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Be seen for who you really are while being present for who your partner really is.
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Experience love in entirely new ways.
Being dependable
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Follow through on your commitments.
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Be someone others can count on and be inspired by.
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Be able to depend on yourself.
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Build powerful routines.
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Drop harmful habits.
Asking for help
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Ask for help while deepening a relationship.
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Get support that makes a difference.
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Be able to hear "no" and feel great about it.
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Discover what you're truly asking for so you can more easily get it.
Emotional literacy
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Easily know and name what you're feeling.
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Connect with the feelings of others so they feel seen, known and understood.
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Embody your anger and know what to do with it.
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Be with and embrace the emotions of others.
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Look forward to feeling anxious (seriously).
Lasting Peace
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Be emotionally engaged without being emotionally volatile.
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Show up with calm, presence and balance.
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Be okay with being sad, mad or stressed. Respect them for what they have to tell you.
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Be less impacted by the world and stay focused on what matters.
Ben acted as a catalyst to push me to go harder, to support, strengthen, clarify and achieve my goals. I went from someone doing decently well to someone strongly and consistently making progress in a number of areas."
Kerry J - Engineer & Founder
If you've come this far,
I'm confident I can help you.
Let's talk for 30 minutes and see how it goes.
There will be no high-pressure sales pitch.
I'll seek to understand you as best I can.
You can ask me whatever questions you'd like.
Profound change can happen.